What is true love? I think the answer to this is quite simple. True love is being able to feel vulnerable with another person and being able to trust them. Looking around these days “true love” is something very hard to find. Why?
It is because most are walking around waiting to find their perfect mate rather than working on being the perfect mate. Of course perfection is nothing that will ever be achieved but at least it gives us something to strive for.
So, if we want someone to fall in love with us… what can we do? We can be honest with them, we can be kind to them, we can assure them that we will not use them, manipulate them, or take advantage of them. We can be dependable so they will know that we will be there for them. This is what we can do to find “true love.”
What else can we do to find “true love?” We can be forgiving and understanding that perfection is something that will never be achieved. We can certainly work on being perfect people but ever getting there we must admit is a fairy tale. We can take control of our own behavior instead of blaming our partners. We can say we are sorry even if we didn’t “start it.”
So, if this is what love requires, it is obvious why it is something very hard to find. People continue to blame each other for their own behavior rather than taking responsibility for their own. “True love” requires both people willing to work on it, take responsibility for their own behavior, and willing to strive for “perfection” knowing that it is something that will never be achieved.
Once you understand what “true love” is, it will be much easier for you to find.