When a companionship goes sour several grief emotions usually surface to the top of your feeling barometer. Three most common are anger, extreme sorrow and helplessness. Eight Solutions may help you reconcile your grieving sorrow and lead you to a future blissful happy lasting relationship.
Loneliness Causes Many to Make Unwise Hurried Decisions
Rushing into a relationship too quickly because of a desire to have companionship often leads down a path which detours lasting happiness. Usually the result ends in a great deal of misery and sorrow. It is wise to not repeat this mistake. It is better to be lonely than be sorry, angry and hurt.
Pay Attention to The Red Flags
Let’s be honest, some companions are unfaithful cockroaches, and enter the relationship with false representation and self-serving motives. You may have made a mistake but the blunder you might have made is entering the relationship in the first place. Some assume they can overlook the faults and worries they see early in the relationship, thinking he/she will change, or overlook the red flags early in the relationship. Failed relationships underscore there are more awful circumstances than loneliness. It is very important to be wiser next time and first examine all things you can do to be sensible in the future.
Set A Standard of Expectations You Desire In A Companion
Many get caught-up with the thought that there is no one better out there, so I should try to figure out a way to make this relationship work, only to be saddened with another appalling romance grief. This is often caused by the low value you place on yourself. I have found in counseling others that if it is possible for them to understand that they place a higher value on self a better quality potential companion becomes available. This only happens when you insist on the standard you want and deserve. You will be surprised how a higher quality potential partner often comes out of the woodwork. Your raised standards and expectations opened up different better choices.
Expectations In Your Relationship
Demanding and expecting faithfulness is a standard that is your right to expect. Yes you can’t expect a companion to be perfect. However, you also have a right to determine standards, values and expectations important to you. Usually it is human nature to not expect or think you have a right to set your conditions. Don’t compromise. Usually you deserve more than you expect.
Sarcasm and A Happy Union
Sarcasm usually crashes and burns in any form, especially in any serious relationship. Yet, in business, competitive sports, casually relationships this is how we roll. In a serious and lasting relationships guard against the many dangers of how sarcasm appears on the outside to do no harm but internally hurts. Kind words, positive words, uplifting patient words, without finding fault an placing blame builds trust. Do all you can to maintain peace and accord in your companionship. Expect your companion to do the same. Settle differences quickly and soon. Don’t allow them to grow and expand. Communicate and reach an accord with each other.
The New Rich and The Just Plain Unfaithful
We all have heard of instants’ when a companion has succeeded in business significantly and leaves his companion of 25 years. Also, we hear of someone running-off with his secretary 15-20 years his junior. These are sorrowful happenings. The first thing you need to be told: “That action doesn’t change the core person you are.” If you did all you could and expected the same of your companion to have harmony in your relationship with each other; you have done all you could. It is sad they were not willing to have and keep the same loyal moral standard.
Society’s Norm of Behavior Does Not Dictate Your Expectations
Prevalent unfaithfulness in the work place doesn’t make it correct. This norm is a worldly standard set by a declining moral value society. That doesn’t make it correct or acceptable behavior. You don’t have to accept it in your relationship. Seemingly there is a double standard in societies we live. Anything goes and everything is acceptable behavior in the work place is one. Loyalty and faithfulness to each other is another. Expect your agreed standard with your romance companionship. Building your relationship from the beginning and constantly working together to build it in a safe trusted harbor adds to your lasting relevance.
Don’t Distrust Everyone but Don’t Rush into Another Rebound Relationship
Distrust of a future relationship partner raises its ugly head. You may even ask yourself what went wrong, even what you did wrong. Helplessness to the extent that you may want to hole-up in your sorrow cave is an action you may be inclined to take. Others rush into another relationship doing the same things done previously. Examine what you can and do differently in future relationships. It is better to be safe than sorry.
The forgoing are solutions which may help you reconcile your grieving sorrow and lead you to a future blissful happy lasting relationship. Rushing too quickly into a relationship because of a desire to have companionship often leads down a path which detours lasting happiness. It is better to be lonely than be sorry, angry and hurt. Early in a relationship pay attention to the red flags. Remember you really can’t make a silk purse out of a pig’s ear. Avoid the use of sarcasm. Don’t compromise you standard of expectations. Kind words, positive words, uplifting patient words, without finding fault and placing blame builds trust. Do all you can to maintain peace and accord in your companionship. Expect your companion to do the same. Settle differences quickly and soon.