God in his infinite wisdom gave a gift to man in the form of a virgin. This is one of the wonders of nature. Equally the science of tantra advocates a path to God through the act of maithuana (sex). The question that begets an answer is how tantra is compatible with defloweration of a virgin.
Tantra theory is applicable when both partners believe in what they are doing and have full knowledge of their acts and consequences if any. In addition a woman is supposed to be an active partner in the act on the path envisaged by tantra. It stands to reason that she must have some knowledge of the act and its relation to tantra.
A virgin on the other hand is only a beginner and it is a moot point whether the tantra and the sex act for God and its realization can be understood in a strict sense as she has never had sex before. However tantric philosophy talks of sex as sacred and in case a man can lead her to the path laid down by tantra then a virgin can be a part of tantric sex. This can be an elevating experience.
For this to happen the man must be learned in the affairs of the tantra and its philosophy. Thus it may entail a man who is much older than the girl. For only an older man with experience can guide a virgin in the tantric and related sex. But a younger man who understands tantra and all its manifestations is not a bar to guiding a virgin. For the man it becomes a sacred duty to rouse the girl and bring her to a level that makes her believe in the tantra and the sacred sex.
It goes without saying that for a girl her virginity is something very emotional for her hence to initiate her with tenderness and love is of great importance.. Awakening her senses will be real test for the man hence his experience and age will be a factor. Once a man has decided to deflower the girl and the girl is willing then he needs to talk to the girl and explain the concept of Tantra and all related matters. As tantra involves giving yourself of your own free will it is important for the girl be aware of this act and give her assent for it.
The girl will not know much except the fact that she is gifting to the man something very precious. Thus it is important to take the girl into the room and talk to her for long on the art of love. Relate to her the theory of tantra and the fact that the sex act can lead to exciting possibilities like previous births and extra sensory perceptions. The kiss soft and succulent must play a major part in this act as well as the build up to the act as undressing and massaging the body with aromatic oils.
There is to be no rushing. Surges of power must be controlled and always think of God at these times. Take your partner with you to the higher echelons of the mind. Rise above pure carnal pleasure. This may take a long time and hence the experience and knowledge of the man will matter a lot.
Tantric sex is not finishing anything like a cannon ball but conserving energy till you can reach sublime bliss. Thus the entry is a small part of tantra and it should be slow and steady.
Taking a girl’s virginity is one of the great acts in a human life. It is her transformation from a maiden to a woman and the significance needs to be appreciated. Sexual union (maithuana) as per tantric thought is a method to awaken and harness the inner energy. Coercion or force has no place and the aim of the man should be to initiate the virgin to a world she would never have experienced earlier. Treat the initiation more as sacred duty than anything else.
At some stage after prolonged foreplay a thrust may be necessary. Do it gently. Some blood could be the result. Stop all movement and continue soft kisses. Move only once acceptance is total. Procreation is Gods gift. Hence the man must treat it as a sacred duty. Awaken the girl to the finer points of Tantra and this by itself will give you immense satisfaction and happiness. This is a sacred duty. A novice will fail and hence an experienced man can only carry out what is envisaged in tantra.